Sometimes the way which seems right may offer many options and require few sacrifices. Easy choices, however, should make us take a second look at the options available. Is this solution attractive because it allows me to be lazy? Is it because it doesn’t ask me to change my life-style or to drop a bad habit? Could it be that it doesn’t require me to have any moral restraints?
The right choice often requires hard work and self-sacrifice. Don’t be enticed by apparent short-cuts that seem right, they just might lead you to a dead end.
Dr. Marc, PS 63:7, AΩ
To follow is a listing of twenty-five personal qualities found in extraordinary leadership. Such qualities make the workplace more livable for everyone.
An extraordinary leader:
- Never expects others to live up to standards or follow rules that he himself does not.
- Takes quality time to listen to her subordinates as well as to give them assignments.
- When a promise is made, a promise is kept: pledges are taken seriously.
- Insists on good open communications: Two directional, candid, accurate, and honest.
- Possesses a healthy respect for the creativity and innovation of others.
- Contributes meaningful content to meetings, rather than wastes time with trivia.
- Keeps everyone in the communications loop.
- Places their ego in check.
- Does not thoughtlessly infringe on another’s area of expertise.
- Vigorously defends any subordinate who have been unjustly accused and becomes a defense shield.
- Even when not personally at fault, will take responsibility for his groups’ actions.
- Always issues full credit and recognition to those who have earned it.
- Participates as mentor to new followers and helps them adjust to the new environment.
- Is not boastful.
- Does not pretend to be an expert in the areas that they are not.
- Fights for the rights of their followers.
- Goes out of her way to aid a colleague coping with a serious situation.
- Does not play the rumor game.
- Is considerate to all newcomers of the group, working diligently to make them feel valued and welcomed.
- Dresses for success.
- Answers all communications promptly and professionally.
- Is not afraid to admit a mistake or to extend an apology.
- Knows how to graciously compliment someone.
- Knows how to accept a personal compliment graciously.
- Realizes that the quickest road to social failure is to be self-focused, pushy-aggressive, self-centered, and continually derogatory.
Dr. Marc, PS 63:7, ΑΩ
Kind of a rare thing finding “good will” surrounding us today. Angry drivers waving their fist at others while speeding by them on the interstate. People fighting for a place in movie line. Rude language being overheard in the grocery isle. Disgruntled workers and bosses both demanding their rights. But shouldn’t we bond together through good will?
Those with good will think the best of others and assume that others have good motives and intend to do what is right. When someone crosses you, and you feel your blood pressure about to explode, ask yourself, “How can I show good will to this person?” You just never know how far the ripples of one act of kindness will venture out.
Dr. Marc, ΑΩ PS 63:7
Anger can be like a fire out of control. It can burn us and everything in its path. Anger divides people. It pushes us into hasty decisions that only cause bitterness and guilt. Yet anger, itself, is not wrong. Anger can be a legitimate reaction to injustice and unfairness.
When you feel yourself getting angry, look for the cause. Are you reacting to a bad situation that you are going to set straight? Or are you responding selfishly to a personal insult? Take the necessary time to get your anger under control. Channel legitimate anger into effective action and conquer selfish and unjustified anger through humility and self-control.
Dr. Marc, PS 63:7, AΩ
When most people are in need of insight and advice, they go to their friends first, because friends accept them and will usually agree with them. But that is why they may not be able to help them with difficult problems; the personal connection is too great.
Our friends are so much like us that they may not have any answers we haven’t already heard. Instead we should seek out mature and wiser people to advise us. Wise people have experienced a lot in life and have succeeded. They are not afraid to tell the truth, even it causes some apprehension.
Who are the wise? Honest people with a character filled with integrity who can warn you of the pitfalls ahead. They carry no hidden agenda or hidden motives.
Dr. Marc, PS 63:7,ΑΩ
There is an old saying; “A rotten apple spoils the whole barrel” is often applied to friendship, and with good reason. Our friends and acquaintances have an effect on us, sometimes profoundly.
Be watchful whom you choose as your closest friends and companions. Spend time with people you want to be like because you and your friends will surely grow to resemble each other.
Dr. Marc, PS 63:7,AΩ
Whether a “desire accomplished” is good or bad depends on the nature and motive behind the desire. It is “sweet to the soul” to achieve worthwhile goals, but not all goals are worth pursuing to the end. Some have an unforgiving price tag attached to them.
When you set your heart on something, you may lose your ability to assess it objectively. Your desire can blind your judgment, and you may proceed with an unwise relationship, a wasteful purchase, or a poorly conceived plan.
Faithfulness is a virtue, but stubbornness is not.
Dr. Marc, PS 63:7, AΩ
“I was mistaken” or “I need your help” are difficult phrases to utter because they require humility. Pride is an element in every quarrel. It stirs up conflict and divides people. Humility, by contrast, heals. Guard against pride. If you find yourself constantly arguing, examine your life for pride.
Be open to the advice of others, ask for help when you need it, and be willing to admit your mistakes.
Proud people seldom realize that pride is the problem, although everyone around them is well aware of it.
Dr. Marc, PS 27:4, ΑΩ
- Give good advice
- Consider their steps
- Hungry for truth
- Value wisdom above riches
- Receive and live life
- Pursue understanding
- Trust in wisdom
- Control their anger
- Admired as counselors
- Crowned with knowledge
- Keep peace
- Stay on the straight path
- Lack common sense
- Enjoy foolishness
- Are gullible
- Avoid the wise
- Feed on imprudence
- Receive punishment
- Pursue illusive dreams
- Blame failure on God
- Avert reproof to others
- Are proud and arrogant
- Despise wise advice
- Make truth worthless
- Repeat their folly
- Stir up anger
- Walk a troublesome path
Of the above, which of the seeds are rooted within you?
Dr. Marc, PS 63:7, ΑΩ
What kind of companion are you? There is an immense difference between knowing somebody well and being a true friend. The greatest evidence of genuine friendship is loyalty; being willing and available to help in times of misery or personal struggles.
So many people are fair-weather, when it is convenient friends. They stick around when the friendship beneficial to them and disappear like a wisp of smoke when they’re not getting anything out of the relationship. Think of your friends and assess your loyalty to them. Are you a “fair-weather” or “all-weather” friend? True friendship lifts the heart.
Remember that a merry heart means cheerfulness. To be cheerful is to be ready to greet others with a warm welcome, a word of encouragement, enthusiasm for where ever the path will lead, and a positive outlook about tomorrow. Such people are as welcome as a cool glass of water on a sweltering summer afternoon.
Happy Valentine’s Day
Dr. Marc, PS 63:7, AΩ,